We Notice What We Look For

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Have you ever noticed that when you are thinking about getting a certain make and model of car, you begin to see that make and model everywhere? This past summer, I spent more time than I ever had before swimming in the ocean where I live. In previous years, I’d swim in the ocean only a few times a summer. Why so few? Because the ocean in Maine is frigid. In the bay where we live it warms up on sunny days and at low tide, but the timing needs to be just right.

But last year I bought a 5 millimeter wet suit, and now I swim all the time. I head out with a mask and snorkel, and I see so much. Rock crabs and hermit crabs, periwinkles, sea stars, mussels, clams, sea urchins, rocks of so many hues, a forest of seaweeds, a garden of sand-buried sea worms with tentacle fronds emerging from their holes, waving in the current until startled, when they instantly disappear. It’s magical.

Many years ago when I was walking on the shore, I came across hundreds of sea stars, dead and beached on the ground. I wondered what could have caused this. Was it the dredging happening in the Union River that emptied into our bay? From then on I always searched for sea stars at low tide, eager to see them and feel assured that their numbers had recovered. Now, swimming out to the small island that comes and goes with the tide offshore, I saw dozens. And so I decided to count them. In my circuit around the tiny island a couple of weeks ago I counted 52 sea stars ranging in size from 1/4 inch to almost a foot across. Simultaneously, I counted the rock crabs – 75 of them. I saw all these sea stars and rock crabs while swimming for only 20 minutes. And it struck me that while I would periodically notice something new, mostly I saw what I was looking for.

Which reminded me of a story of an old woman sitting on a stool on a road between two villages. One day a traveler walked up to her and asked, “What kind of people live in the village to the north?” The old woman asked the traveler what sort of people he’d encountered in the village to the south, and he said, “Oh I met the worst people. They were greedy and rude and mean. They were thieves and liars and cheats.”

“I see,” the old woman said, “I’m afraid that you will find the same kinds of people in the village to the north.”

The next day another traveler approached the old woman asking, “Can you tell me what sorts of people are to be found in the village to the north?”

Again the old woman asked what sorts of people the traveler had found in the village to the south, and he responded, “I met the most wonderful people! They shared everything they had and opened their arms and their homes to me. They were kind and loving, gracious, and honest, and good.”

“Oh,” the old woman said, “You will find exactly the same sort of people in the village to the north.”

I love this story, and I loved experiencing for myself what it feels like to find what one is looking for.

So my tip for today is this: Ask yourself what you want to find today, this week, this month, this year. Answer this question for  yourself wisely and with hope and vision. You will find what you are looking for.

~ Zoe

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDxConejo talk: “Solutionaries”
My TEDxDirigo talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Why We Need Humane Education: We Protect What We Love

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During a recent presentation to students from the University of Richmond, I led a Wonder Walk, an outdoor activity in which people lead each other, in pairs, on an experience to awaken the senses. They take turns bringing their partner – whose eyes are closed – on a walk in a beautiful outdoor setting.

Gently guiding them, they tap their temple to invite them to open their eyes to see something they’ve noticed and want to share; touch their nose after leading them to something to smell; their ear to pay attention to a sound; their lips to invite them to taste something (such as a sprig of wild mint or a blueberry); and place their hands on objects to touch (in my case, my fingers were placed on the fuzzy, kitten-like seedpods of a lupine flower). What usually happens when people experience the Wonder Walk is that they find themselves deeply connecting with the natural world. I often describe this as “falling in love” with nature.

After sharing the Wonder Walk with them, I told the students that my reason for doing it with people is that I believe that we protect and care for what we love. While intellectual commitments to justice are motivation enough for some to work to preserve the natural world, change their destructive habits, and commit to being changemakers for justice and sustainability, for most of us it is our hearts that are the big motivators. We are willing to do much more on behalf of that which we love. And if we love the natural world and the other species with whom we share it, we may be willing to do much more than if we don’t.

Within hours of leading this activity, I read this quote from Baba Dioum in Sailesh Rao’s book, Carbon Dharma: The Occupation of Butterflies:

“In the end, we conserve only what we love. We love only what we understand. We understand only what we are taught.”

If ever there was a quote that reinforced my belief in the importance of humane education and providing people with the knowledge, tools, and motivation to be conscientious choicemakers and engaged changemakers, it is this.

~ Zoe

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDxConejo talk: “Solutionaries”
My TEDxDirigo talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Opening Our Eyes to the Mystery of Nature

A few nights ago, my husband and I were walking our dogs at dusk. When we walked by our pond, some of the pond insects were skittering and swimming on the surface of the water, creating pathways and patterns on the otherwise smooth surface. Then our dog barked. My husband immediately called me over to see what had happened and used his phone to videotape something neither of us had seen before.

At each bark, the insects – many more than were otherwise visible when it was quiet – responded with a sudden jerk. Take a look:

We have lived in our home for years, yet we have never seen this. Who knew that insects responded to sound in such a way? There is so much we don’t see, don’t notice, don’t pay attention to – a reminder that there is mystery all around us, and there are always new and amazing wonders to discover in the natural world.

So go out and observe. Sit quietly for some time each day and watch a small window of nature, a square foot is plenty. Just pay attention. Our beautiful planet is amazing. And when we notice and truly appreciate nature, there is little we won’t do to protect it.

Zoe

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDxConejo talk: “Solutionaries”
My TEDxDirigo talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Awakening Eyes

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Years ago, when I first heard spring peepers and ventured out at night to see them, it took forever to find them. If I was lucky, I’d spot one after much searching. True, in those years they weren’t as plentiful at our pond as they are now. The family that dug the pond behind our house 20 years ago did so primarily to stock it with fish so that they could go fishing; but the second summer we lived here we had a heat wave that killed all nine fish over the course of a week. I remember feeling so sad as day after day the fish I’d loved to swim with in the small pond floated dead to the surface.

But in the absence of fish, the amphibian population has grown dramatically. Half a dozen species have found a home here, and this year we had spotted salamanders lay eggs for the first time. It’s deafening now in the spring, and on warm nights, we head out with flashlights to catch a glimpse of the small spring peepers with their big sounds.

Last night I had just 10 minutes between returning from my Aikido class and a scheduled conference call. I headed out, and in those ten minutes saw 20 peepers. Now I also see the night crawlers, earthworms who venture out of seemingly invisible holes, moving like a writhing earth as I walk by. They too were invisible to me years ago, and now they’re everywhere. My eyes are ready to see all this now, attuned as I’ve become to the night life in our backyard. I love that. I love that once we learn to see, we can always see. It’s a metaphor for me for awakening in general. May we each awaken to the mysterious, awesome life around us.

Enjoy this video of a spring peeper peeping in our backyard:

Spring Peeper video

For a humane world,

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDx talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Avis Ex Machina or “I Can’t Believe That’s a Bird!”

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Many years ago, my husband and I began noticing a strange recurrence in the woods. Periodically, we’d be walking along and hear the start of an engine, putt-putt-putt, followed by the revving up as the engine catches, followed by… silence. How odd. It was as if our distant neighbors (we live in rural Maine where dwellings are far apart) started up their chainsaws only to stop before actually using them.

What was especially weird was that this kept happening, on walks to the ocean by our house, and in the wilderness far from any people at all, and it always followed the exact same pattern: a slow start, the roar of the engine, and nothing. Why were there machines starting and stopping all over the woods? And why could I find no one else who’d ever noticed this?

Last weekend, my husband was listening to his bird song app on his iPhone, and he clicked on the Ruffed Grouse. Lo and behold, there was the machine noise, called “drumming,” that the male makes by rapidly flapping his wings while puffing out his chest. At long last, our mystery was solved.

After this discovery, I found myself thinking that on the one hand we’ve been pretty observant visitors to the woods. We’ve noticed a sound no one else we know has ever noticed. But on the other hand, I’m struck by the fact that in all these years, it took an iPhone app to identify the source of that sound, and that what we have been convinced had to be mechanical was actually just a bird, the size of a small chicken, flapping his wings. Reason and sleuthing should have led us to the Ruffed Grouse years ago, but we were easily led astray by our senses, which insisted that this sound was a human-made machine, however illogical this obviously was.

How easily we come up with faulty explanations for the unknown, believing in false premises, jumping to conclusions, becoming superstitious. But if we’re willing to persevere and allow our curiosity, coupled with our reason, to steer us toward truth, we may yet get there.

(Here is a link to hear and see the drumming of the male Ruffed Grouse yourself . You will need good speakers as the frequency is so low that most computers won’t do the sound justice.)

For a humane world,

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDx talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Basking

It’s been quite a week at the Institute for Humane Education. We held our annual Summer Institute, Educating for a Better World, with a full house, and in the next several blog posts I’ll be sharing some of the fantastic humane education activities the students presented. The Summer Institute was followed immediately by our first reunion for graduates of our master’s degree and certificate program, which was followed that same night by our 15th anniversary celebration. I’ll be sharing the video tribute from that event here, too.

On July 4, I took the day off and hiked a favorite mountain with my husband. I brought my small but high-powered magnifying glass and took my time noticing the tiny berry-like fruiting bodies of moss, the green, purple and orange stripes (seriously!) of a deer fly’s eye that my husband caught as he was about to be bitten, a dozen kinds of lichen (swelled with moisture on a humid day) all on a single rock, and much more. I watched low clouds I could almost touch zoom and whirlpool as I lay down at the peak and stared upward as the sun burned them off and turned the day bright, and I reveled in the pleasure I take in seeing our dogs so happy.

Stay tuned.

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDx talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Reflections on this Summer Solstice

I grew up in New York City. During my childhood I did not know what the solstices were. I was vaguely aware that it was darker in the winter and lighter in the summer, but I never knew that there were two days in the year when the shift from light to darkness, or vice versa, occurred. I did not know there was a longest day or a shortest day, although I should have been smart enough to figure this out. But even if I had, I would not have felt that such a shift marked anything very important.

Had I grown up prior to the Industrial Revolution, the winter solstice would have been quite a time to mark. As the days in December were growing increasingly short and cold, I imagine I would have been happy to know that on December 21st, even as the first days of winter began, the light would be returning, and the days would grow increasingly longer. On the summer solstice, as the days were warming and the seeds were sprouting for a hoped-for big harvest, I would also have been aware that the next day would be shorter, portending winter’s return.

How could I have been so unaware of the solstices for two decades of my life? Easy. In our built world with electric light at our fingertips, drapes to block the rays of the morning sun, and so much to keep us indoors and in front of screens and books and on our phones (and now Skype and email and Facebook and Twitter), it’s not a surprise that I, like many children, barely noticed the change in light. We notice what we pay attention to, and it’s somewhat disturbing to think that growing up in Manhattan I paid such little attention to the natural world that a fundamental cycle of light was lost on me.

On this solstice, I’m asking myself this: To what do I want to attend? I’m resolving to spend 15 minutes each day this summer simply sitting and observing a small spot in the natural world. Whether it is at our pond, teeming, truly teeming, with life, or in our wildflower meadow watching the work of pollinators, or in the deep woods that border the meadow, I will be paying attention to this beautiful earth I inhabit. Whenever I take time to do this, I realize — often quite suddenly and profoundly — that while this land is legally “mine,” of its countless inhabitants I spend the least time actually in, on, and among it. I sleep in a comfortable bed inside, spend hours on my computer each day, live largely indoors. Meanwhile, just outside, life in all its mystery and abundance is happening. For a time each day between now and winter, I plan to notice.

For a humane world,

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm, Above All, Be Kind, and The Power and Promise of Humane Education
My TEDx talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Joy in Observation & the Right Attitude

A foot of powdery snow fell on a recent Friday, so early the next morning I put my x-country skis in my car and drove 20 miles to Mount Desert Island to ski on the carriage roads in Acadia National Park. I noticed that the thick snow-covered trees at home gave way to sparkling, ice-covered branches on the island, but it was so beautiful I didn’t pause to think what this might mean for the trails.

When I began the 14-mile loop around several mountains, the snow was not nearly as deep as at home and had a thick layer of crunchy ice, with a bit of powder on top. The ice wasn’t thick enough to ski atop, rather each glide ended with a thump as my weight (all 96 pounds of it) caused the crust to break. It was a slog, but I suspected that the volunteer trail groomer would be out soon. Or some other skiers coming from the other direction would have broken some trail, too. I plowed on.

Despite the hard work, it was breathtaking. The evergreens were weighed down with thick, crusty snow and the tips of the needles shone with teardrop-shaped icicles. The deciduous trees were sparkling in the sunlight, all lit up by a coating of ice. I followed a coyote’s tracks for a couple of miles and then a fox track, which converged with the coyote’s. There were rabbit tracks, mouse tracks, and squirrel tracks, too, all made within a few hours. Perhaps some of these animals were watching me. I was so noisy with my skis and poles crunching the ice that they certainly could hear me coming, but perhaps they observed me, as I observed their tracks. For about 1/4 mile, I skied alongside a human’s footprints accompanied by a dog. It was interesting to compare the dog prints to the coyote and fox prints, the wild canines’ so different from their domesticated cousin’s.

Then I noticed another kind of print in the snow, random and patternless. It took me a little while to figure out where they came from. They were leaf prints from the oak and beech leaves that had been clinging to the trees since last fall, finally released by the stormy winds, skittering on the snow before coming to rest in little drifts.

I felt good about all this noticing; it brought a kind of joy, this simple observation of what was around me.

Then I reached the fork where I expected to see others’ tracks. Alas there were none, and the trail groomer hadn’t yet made it this far, either. I faced a long and arduous uphill. I began the climb enthusiastically, but by the time I reached the top and the next fork and there were still no tracks or groomed trails, my spirits sank. By now the sky was overcast. I was only at the halfway point and this side of the mountain had borne the brunt of the storm. Whereas the other side had a thin layer of powder atop the crunchy stuff, here it was mostly ice. Each glide resulted in shards cracking and a deep, unpleasant, body-jarring thump. And I still had another slow uphill before I’d reach a point where I might have a downhill respite. When I did finally reach that point, going down was hardly easier, as my skis got stuck in the ice, tripping me up. I finally paused for a snack and something to drink, and the first and only live animal I was to see, a woodpecker, flew next to me and pecked away at a birch while I sipped my tea. I was so appreciative of that bird. The woodpecker, along with gorgeous blue-green ice overhanging the cliffs beside me, renewed my spirits.

The slog resumed. My spirits declined more quickly this time, especially when I reached the next fork and the next big uphill stretch and it, too, had seen neither skier nor groomer. Finally, I ran into two good friends coming my way who listened to my grumpy complaints about being tired (I’d now been skiing 4 hours and had broken 10 miles of trail) and then turned around so that we skied together. I thought of how my mood had changed, from joyful appreciation of the tremendous beauty; from rapt attention to every detail, to exhaustion, frustration and moodiness. That in itself was a lesson. I could have continued to observe carefully. I could have recognized the blessings surrounding me, rather than bemoaning the lack of groomed trails and the unexpected icy conditions. I could have stopped wishing that I’d taken a different route, or that I’d gone skiing closer to home where the snow was snow, not ice, instead of focusing on the “what ifs.” My friends were just what I needed though: ears to listen to a few minutes of complaints, so that I could put my grumpiness aside and revel in the now groomed trail I was delighted to ski upon.

Joy in observation; changing moods; kind listeners. Attitude may not be everything, but it counts for a lot.

Zoe Weil, President, Institute for Humane Education
Author of Most Good, Least Harm
My TEDx talk: “The World Becomes What You Teach

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Otter Bog Blog #2: Finding Treasures in the Moment

 

British Soldiers

 

My husband and I headed off to Otter Bog on a crisp fall Saturday that followed a series of rainy days. We went in search of a chicken-of-the-woods, our favorite edible shelf mushroom that we often find after rains in autumn. The woods were full of mushrooms, including a giant puffball (whose time had clearly passed, alas), but despite bushwhacking for 6 hours we didn’t find a chicken-of-the-woods. We did find the largest bear scat we’d ever seen, and magnificent British Soldiers growing on a dead log, but these were poor substitutes for the delicacy we sought.

When we got back to the pond at Otter Bog it was close to 4 p.m. The beavers who live on the pond were likely to come out soon, so we sat down on one of their old lodges (across the pond from their new lodge) and waited. My husband asked how long I planned to wait, and I said that I thought they’d come out within the hour. “An hour!” he exclaimed, not planning to stay more than 15 minutes. Fifteen minutes passed with no sign of the beavers, but we saw a pair of Wood Ducks off in the distance, and then one male Wood Duck, in all his resplendent colors, flew in and landed about 30 feet in front of us. And so we stayed.

 

A beaver at Otter Bog

 

When the hour was up, I was getting cold and my butt was sore from sitting on the beaver lodge sticks, and so I got up to go. My husband was packing up his camera to follow. I waited in the car for about five minutes and then realized that the beavers must have finally come out, because he hadn’t come back yet. So I quietly walked back to the pond, and sure enough was greeted by the beavers. Turns out my husband had a leg cramp as he stood up and during the 20 seconds that the cramp waylaid him, the beavers came out.

The take home message from the day? When you’re on a treasure hunt, you’ll always find treasures you weren’t searching for if you’re open to what appears in each moment. Or, as John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.”

Zoe Weil, Author of Most Good, Least Harm

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The Change of Seasons

Over the past several days flickers have been gathering at our house. Dozens of them. I rarely see flickers, and then suddenly, they are everywhere, eating insects in the grass. The dragonflies are buzzing all over too, not just at the pond where they hatched and spent their first few weeks, but over the grass now, near the flickers. A Great Blue Heron has been hanging out at the pond, eating frogs, I presume – those same frogs who have grown big in the months since I wrote about the deafening evening choruses this past spring. The seasons bring not just changes in temperature, light and color, but behavioral changes among the animals with whom we share this place. If we pay attention, there is so much to notice. Not just the obvious migrations of birds we’ve come to expect in spring, but also the disappearance of the jellyfish once the ocean water warms in summer and the seals who move out to sea and no longer bask in the sun on the nearby rocks in fall.

Advice for the day: pay attention. There are mysteries to be unearthed all around us.

Zoe Weil
Author of Most Good, Least Harm

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